You know that saying, if I had a pound
for every time I have been called X, then I would be a millionaire – well this
is mostly true for me (although I exaggerate slightly with a million!) when it
comes to being labelled ‘sexist’.
Last week HER Business Revolution
received an email from a man in response to searching for another surprise act
for this year’s HER Conference to say that we were undermining what him and his
team does and wouldn’t want to be associated with such a ‘sexist’ event as the
conference (of which we just thanked him for his feedback, in a polite F-off-
In the words of Miss Arianna Grande
“Thank you, next”.
Anyway, this got me thinking of how
many times I have been labelled this since launching the women’s network back
in 2015, and I realised that the amount of times men have made this assumption
of me, because I stand up for women’s empowerment and want to see womenkind
prosper, is an unbelievable number, with this accusation usually being used as
a response from a man who doesn’t like the answer or information he has been
given by me.
Back in college I was once accused of
being racist because I didn’t believe in the argument a fellow class member was
presenting, and my response was “I suppose you are going to say I’m sexist
as well because you are a man”
You see, pulling the race or sexist
card when you don’t agree with what the other party is saying is not acceptable
(quite frankly it’s a load of BS) and putting someone in a box, without having
any knowledge of what they are all about and why they do or feel how they do is
just plain nieve.
When I’m given this label my response
is always the same:
– please don’t judge me on face value
and get to know me and my purpose
– if there wasn’t a need for women’s
only networking and empowerment events then the business wouldn’t still be
running after 4 years
– it has been proven that men and
women conduct business differently in general – this is not a huge surprise!
– we include men in lots of ways and
run mixed events too
– a few brave men will be attending
this year’s HER Conference, and that’s all cool with me as they are generally
interested in what it’s all about and what’s going on on the day
– I also own Glow Virtual Assistants
and have worked with thousands of male clients, supporting their businesses to
shine, and we provide them with the same service as our female clients (as they
are all people and all equally awesome!)
– many other businesses have specific niches
and target audiences, but that doesn’t mean that they are sexist, racist,
against any religious group, or similar, it just means they focus on serving
one type of customer (which makes total business sense as we can’t please
So, why do I want to empower working
Let’s look at the stats…
Last year the United Kingdom’s total
population was estimated to be 65,648,100, with almost 50% being female, and
over 70% of those women aged 16–64 in employment.
The gender pay gap for full- and
part-time workers combined in the United Kingdom was approximately 18.4%
—meaning that women made
approximately 80% of men’s median hourly wages.
percentage of women in senior leadership roles remained low at 22%, and
only 36% of legislators, senior officials, and managers are women.
Bearing in mind that we are in the
21st century (so not cave people!) and that half of the population is female,
these figures just don’t stack up (even with the fact that women usually take
on the childcare responsibilities).
So, if you jump to conclusions about
me without getting to know the truth, before reaching like a pitbull who has
had their bone taken away, it might be worth coming down from your high horse
and asking yourself, “who is the one really being sexist in this
I hope this is shown you ‘sexism’ in a different light,